When to do what!

I’ve gotten some questions lately about when to send gifts, when to send Thank Yous and of course, how long can you wait to do either?

First of all, if you’re going to the wedding and it’s a reasonable sized gift, you can always take it with you (hint, hint: card with cash!). If it’s a large gift, you’re in the wedding, or you don’t want to make the bride + groom lug the gift home after the wedding, you can have it shipped to them in advance – most websites like Crate & Barrel, Pottery Barn, Bed Bath & Beyond and Target do this for free or a small fee. Most people wait to send wedding gifts until the 2 month range prior to the wedding, or when one can assume showers/engagement parties are over. If the couple sends you a message saying they are having a small ceremony this year or going to the courthouse¬†and plan to do something bigger with the whole family/friends crowd next year, it’s acceptable to wait until the bigger party, but certainly okay to go ahead and send them something (they did just get married!).

If you’re on the receiving end of the gifts, it’s in your best interest to write those thank yous as you receive the gifts – I promise you will be glad you did later! If you just can’t bring yourself to write thank yous before the wedding, keep a detailed list of who sent what so that when you do have time, you’ll be able to write detailed notes. In the event you don’t receive any gifts shipped to your home pre-wedding (doubt this will happen), you have up to 6 months to write your thank yous after the wedding. I would advise you not to take the full six months. Sit down each evening for a week after your honeymoon and split the list with your hubby and bust out 10 a piece each night, you’ll have it done before you know it and guests will appreciate the quick acknowledgement of how much you loved their gift. The Knot has a great guide for Thank You notes that will help you with this task.

As with everything else in life, you’re better off being early than late ūüėČ

 

Your wish is my command!

Now that I am a bride-to-be, I understand all the things brides don’t want to hear. Griping. Complaints about dresses/shoes/jewelry. Anything negative that’s directed at YOUR wedding. Thankfully, I have incredible friends and bridesmaids who have all said “whatever you want!” (I seriously love them!)

We are getting ready to place the order for our J. Crew bridesmaid dresses and I couldn’t be happier. I LOVE that my bridesmaids and I will be wearing J. Crew on my big day. Their dresses are just SO classy! And can definitely be worn again, right? I know everyone says that but I really believe it with J. Crew. They are very versatile and who doesn’t love to dress up fancy for a night out? I truly did want to find a dress that they would be comfortable in, loved, and could potentially use again. Maybe not as a “wear every-other week” dress or “wear to work” dress, but something that could be reworn to an event later on.
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For a while I was torn between the J. Crew ones and Alfred Sung styles (pictured above)¬†– but ultimately, the girls picked the J. Crew ones. They’re going to look so stunning! Color and styles will remain secret – until the big day of course! Both J. Crew and Alfred Sung offered FREE sample swatches – which helped us decide the color. We had a very specific look in our minds, so it was easy for us to decide the color.
I have yet to book the florist (or even call any)… and time is ticking. But I did get this really adorable stamp for our post-wedding thank-you notes!

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Wedding Paper Divas has a 50% off deal on their stamps today – check it out and order one! Great deal for brides-to-be, single folks and those of you that have already tied the knot! Something you can use long after the thank you notes are written and you’re on your way to growing old together!

Nothing better

To me, there’s nothing better (or sweeter) than a hand written note. Whether it’s a follow up to an interview, a “just because” or a thank-you for the super awesome gift note, handwritten is a MUST. (This is arguable on the interview one, but this is a wedding blog, so focus on the “Thank You” note)!

We display all of our Thank You notes on our fridge ¬†– for probably far too long, but sometimes it’s nice to just look back and relive the memory. Each of these cards reminds us of special times with friends that we feel very lucky to have in our lives.

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Photo and Card by: http://www.essentialsunshine.com

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Timelines tend to differ on the amount of time you have to write these after your wedding (but don’t forget about writing them after showers & parties too!), this one says it should be no later than 3 months after the gift is received. After our engagement party, we divided the list of names of folks that were kind enough to attend and wrote notes to each of them. It took us maybe an hour to do them all ¬†– but best of all, it made us smile all over again thinking about how much fun our night was and how awesome our friends and family are.

There are so many options for thank you notes these days too, you can do folded, postcards (as seen above from Michelle & Ian’s fabulous wedding – HAPPY 6 MONTH ANNIVERSARY, love birds!), you can even have stationary created with your new initials, your married monogram or a picture, and still write the note on the paper. You’ve got options… so there are no excuses! Check out Etsy for some creative options!

Having typed notes isn’t the worst thing in the world… not sending them at all takes the cake on that one. We’ve been to 3 weddings that we didn’t get thank you notes from. The first one, I thought maybe our card got separated from our gift and they didn’t know we brought anything but after the other two happened, I chalked it up to laziness. People are taking time out of their lives to celebrate with you – a thank you note is the simplest thing to do, to show them that you care about them too.

Practice your hand writing now and show some love through the mail!

Happy Monday!