The Day Before THE BIG DAY

On Friday before our wedding, I was a mess. I was running late for EVERYTHING and the fact that it was raining did not help. Rain in Charlotte equals stand-still traffic almost always. So I missed my eyelash appointment by 11 minutes. Ran into my dear friend Gean in Sephora and burst into tears. Did some shopping in an attempt to make myself feel better (sale at Lilly Pulitzer? yes, please!). Was then late to my nail appointment with two of my sweet bridesmaids – and forgot to take the polish color that I had chosen for us to wear. r0After manis and pedis, I rushed home to get ready for our rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. Rushing was the theme of my day.

We had exactly one hour given to us at The Dairy Barn to rehearse. While I was able to see some of the decorations (tables and flowers), the upstairs was not set up so we had to rehearse in a bare room. Oh, did I forget to mention that our wedding got moved inside? You see, the skies opened up on Friday and rained straight through Saturday. Our tables/chairs vendor gave me until 1 pm on Friday to make the final call. I called my husband-to-be at 12:55, sobbing, and asking what he thought. His response?

“I’ll marry you here or there. I’ll marry you anywhere! I’ll marry you on a bus or a train, I’ll even marry you in the pouring rain!”

After deciding not to put a tent over our guests and proceed with the outdoor wedding, I informed all of the vendors that it would be inside. My poor photographer got to listen to me cry twice when she called and we discussed pictures we would take inside. But anyway, I got all of this out of my system before the rehearsal and we had one hour to zoom through how the wedding would go. Pretty simple. The only thing I would do different is actually run through the vows (I recommend this!). On the day of, your mind is swimming with so many happy thoughts and you’re focusing on smiling, saying the right thing, not locking your legs that it’s helpful to know what’s coming and to have heard it before.
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After the rehearsal and some running around in The Dairy Barn to set up pictures/signs/chalkboards, we finally escaped to our rehearsal dinner at The Fish Market in Baxter. Not that there was ever a doubt in my mind about it, but it was DELICIOUS.

Afterwards, we went our separate ways (kinda, I forgot my running shoes at the house and had to go grab those!) to get some rest before the real big day. I had a slumber party with my MOH at the hotel we had chosen for our guests and LW stayed at the house with the doggies.
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A tiring, tearful, mess of a day turned into a wonderful evening. I kept telling myself to just let it out, and get it ALL out before Saturday. A friend told me of a bride she knew of who let it consume her on her wedding day that it was raining and changing her plans and she regretted it afterwards and I didn’t want that to be me. So on the day of, I was all smiles… despite the rain.

Oh, and I forgot to mention that I wore 2 different shoes to the rehearsal. One pewter Jack Rogers Sandal and one Silver Jack Rogers Sandal. Whoops!

8 sleeps!

Today is August 8th and we have 8 sleeps left until we are HUSBAND & WIFE. So exciting. And I get giddy everytime my sweet fiance tells me how excited he is or what wedding thing he plans to work on after work or do this weekend while I’m out of town. I smile from ear-to-ear as we talk about our honeymoon (we might have already checked out from work!). And I love the feeling of everything being completed and us having a few days to truly “sit back and relax.”

And the best news of the day is that the 10-day forecast shows our wedding day being “perfect” as LW said, with just a 10% chance of rain (and perhaps some cloud cover for our guests). Just yesterday I was telling a friend that I hadn’t thought of a contingency plan for our rehearsal which is set to be outside the day before. But alas, the forecast shows 0% chance of rain and a perfectly sunny, 80-degree day. I could not be more excited/relieved/happy. It’s here! It’s almost our WEDDING WEEK and it’s almost our time to say “I do!”

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Practice makes perfect!

Last week we received a darling invite to our rehearsal dinner, hosted by my wonderful, soon-to-be in-laws. At the same time, I got a flood of emails from our coordinator, photographer and DJ asking for schedules, addresses, updated info, etc. Oh, did I mention I’m in the middle of starting a new job? (insert “ain’t nobody got time for that” comment here).

So, I’ve been digging through them, every chance I get and updating as I go (in between writing checks in amounts that hurt my heart). Somewhere in the midst of this, I realized that we hadn’t even given our wedding party a run-down of the details they needed to know about the rehearsal or day of the wedding. Lucky for my fiance, I am a pro at writing emails, so I quickly drafted a template that we could send to our respective sides.

Being the perfectionist that I am, or as particular as I am, or controlling as some may call it, it was hard for me not to type a big ol’ “DON’T YOU DARE BE LATE OR YOU WILL FOREVER GET THE STINK EYE FROM ME.” But I’m trusting that my guests got that from, “it is imperative that everyone be on time as we are only allotted ONE hour to rehearse at the venue.”

Ideally, I would like to run through things 2-3 times while we are there (I’m sure my coordinator has this all planned out). This will be the first time our entire wedding party will be together, and will be interesting to see how everything flows. It will certainly ease my mind if we can make things as darn near perfect as possible in that hour. Luckily, the rehearsal dinner is afterwards and I can have a glass of wine to ease my mind the rest of the way.

The wedding invite list was stressful, deciding where to budget money was stressful, but for me, counting on a dozen other people to handle the biggest day of my life is by far the most stressful. I want to have my hand in everything and preview and review everything to make sure it’s JUST RIGHT before any guests see it. This will likely not be possible on the day of and I’ll have to relinquish some of my “controlling” nature and let everyone do their thing. So here’s to putting my big day in the hands of friends, family and paid wedding-industry-members alike. Deep breaths!

Wedding favorites

As I’ve said before, I’m a fan of Pinterest and it’s easy DIY ideas… but since we’ve been to 13 or so weddings since we got together, I’ve also picked up ideas here and there. One of our FAVORITE weddings was this past August at Rockwood Manor in my hometown. I decided early on that I wanted a Carolina wedding versus a Virginia wedding… so that’s what we’re having. But Rockwood Manor is the perfect place for an adorable country/southern wedding. My friends Michelle & Ian had THE MOST GORGEOUS wedding there with all of the cutest, personal touches.

And what wedding is complete without a photo booth?

Just a few short weeks after that beautiful shendig, we had another to attend in my favorite spot on earth, Swansboro, NC. Now, although they are both Southern Belles, their weddings were totally different but still totally perfect.

Loving the Bride/Groom signs but I’m picturing burlap bows instead. Every southern gal owns a pair of Jack Rogers… and a TRUE southern gal will have those suckers monogrammed with her new initials before the big day. I’m thinking white ones instead of colored but would love input on that. My bridesmaids will probably be in silver/pewter Jacks depending on the  shade of dress we choose.

And the sweetest detail of Marlana’s wedding was actually at the rehearsal dinner and something done by the groom. We were all swooning over this sweetness…

I definitely want some DIY crafts to be displayed at our wedding…. chalkboards, bows, fun photo booth props, and of course, something very special to do with pictures of us because I am a picture addict (never caught without at least one camera).

Any sweet, personal touches you’ve seen at weddings lately that you think should be incorporated? Of course there are tons of these on Pinterest… I’m sure my head will get full of ideas over the next 9 months!