One year anniversary!

Yesterday marked one year of wedded bliss for me and my handsome husband. We’ve had a crazy busy year (new job + travel, buying a house, becoming landlords, personal travel, etc.) and it’s been pretty amazing.

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However, we discuss quite often that marriage is not all cotton candy and candy apples (not even in the first year). But marriage, as a committment you made in front of family and friends and most importantly, to each other, is a job. And it should be the job where you focus most of your energy. Not saying that it should be your toughest job, because if you’re with the right person, a lot of it comes easily and naturally. But it’s work to not snap at your sig-o when you’re hungry (or hangry, as I sometimes get), it’s work to step away from what you’re doing sometimes and focus on what your other half wants to do, sometimes we forget to put the phone/iPad down and listen to the other, sometimes we are preoccupied with our own thoughts, or sometimes we just want to be alone. But it’s important to remember that your other half is your partner, not your enemy. They’re on your side. They want to spend time with you, talk to you, and listen to you.

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My husband and I met as co-workers and I’m glad he’s still my co-worker in marriage. Working together is incredibly important. I know how much it bothers him when I slip my shoes off at the door instead of putting them in the closet, and while it seems like a REALLY LITTLE thing, it’s easy to get caught up in really little things that annoy you. It’s a really little extra step for me to walk over to the closet and something that I should do because I KNOW it bothers him. It’s important not to get caught up in the little things and to focus on the big picture.

Taken by Sarah Photography
Taken by Sarah Photography

Ever since we started dating we’ve talked about goals for our life and our future and we continue to fous on those. We love to travel and continue planning out trips to places domestic and international. We made a list of our Top 5 destinations for each and cross matched (3/5 on both lists were the same). We’re managing owning two houses, although it’s not ideal, and I never wanted to be a landlord, it’s working. The plus is that we’re building equity in our other home and when we DO sell, we’ll be better off. We’re working on making our new house very homey and enjoying spending time in our yard, our rocking chairs and screened-in porch. We’re both very career focused right now and fortunate to be with a good company and doing what we love, or at least what our degrees are in. And we get to spend plenty of time with friends and family (including our new baby niece!). And yes, kids are in the future just not right now.

Taken by Sarah Photography
Taken by Sarah Photography

We don’t have a perfect marriage, but we have a darn good one. We’re still falling in love with each other day over day, laughing until our bellies hurt and there for each other when there are tears. I try to focus on the good, be happy and cherish all the little moments. I saw a quote this morning that said:

The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”

How true, and how very bad of us. What people post on social media is not them at their worst, it’s laughing, smiling, happiness. Try not to compare yourself, or your relationship to that of others. Try to focus on how to continue, every day, making your relationship the best it can be. Your marriage is yours and your husband’s and you’re the only ones responsible for making it work. Social media has us questioning things that don’t need to be questioned. Spend time in reality, loving the most, focusing on what matters and sticking to your vows. Spend time cultivating a marriage that other people desire. You have your own highlight reel that is by far the most important one in the world.

Post Wedding Purge

I mentioned several times throughout the planning process I mentioned all the crafty items I was purchasing for DIY decor at our wedding. Well, it worked. I spent HOURS painting and writing with chalkboard markers but it all looked wonderful, the pictures were framed, signs hung, and banners proudly displayed. But now that the wedding is over, I do NOT need dozens of chalkboards, Mr & Mrs signs, bubbles or stripey straws laying around the house (and my groom would prefer it if this was not the case!).

Another bride-to-be (Happy Wedding Week, Adrienne) approached me and my friend, Valerie about having a “Bridal Yard Sale” here in Charlotte after all of our weddings are finished up. This is a spectacular idea and I cannot wait to share the goodies with other brides who are knee-deep in planning. So, I’m sharing a preview now of some of the things I will have for sale (Southwest VA friends, I’m headed your way at the end of the week and am happy to bring items to you if you see something you like). We haven’t set the date for the Yard Sale but I will keep you updated! You’ll want to mark your calendar for this collaborative and creative day!

1. Tree Stump (used for sweetheart wedding cake – but could be used as a sign or other decoration) – $12

2. Mr. & Mrs. signs tied with navy ribbon – $15 (for both)

3. Wedding sign with arrow $10 – SOLD

4. Mailbox (used to collect cards at wedding – can easily be sanded and repainted (or change initial)) – $15

5. Please Leaf Your Thumbprint sign & frame (used for thumbprint tree at wedding) – $5

6. (4) colors of thumbprint ink for Thumbprint sign – $5

7. Large chalkboard with dark gray frame – $28 – SOLD

8. Window Frame Chalkboard (frame can be painted) – $18- SOLD

9. Pig shaped chalkboard (we used this for our menu) – $12

10. Heart Shaped Slate hanging sign – $3- SOLD

11. Rectangular Shaped Slate hanging sign – $3- SOLD

12. (2) Matching Slate hanging signs – $5 – SOLD

13. (20) Chalkboard picks (can be stuck in flower arrangements, buckets, etc.) – $15- SOLD

14. Hanging chalkboard sign – $7- SOLD

15. Easel (works great with the window frame chalkboard) – $12

16. Burlap & gold table cloth – $7

17. “I do” something blue for the bottom of brides shoes – $3

18. 50+ mini bubble bottles (leftovers from what we used for our exit) – $10

19. Small “W” (will stand on it’s own – about 3-4″ tall) – $3

20. Ampersand sign (would look cute hanging between chairs or for pics) – $9

21. Large (18″) “W” for decorating or photos (can easily be repainted) – $13

22. Lime Green Striped Straws (20) – $4

23. Navy Striped Straws (3 packs of 20) – $10

25. Love of my life sign – $13 – SOLD

26. Elegant picture frame – $7- SOLD

27. Best Day Ever + picture frame – $7

28. White Threshold Picture frame with rope pattern – $6

29. Large black easel (great for the BIG chalkboard) – $15- SOLD

30. “Just Married” banner (2 pieces) – $15- SOLD

Like what you see? Just think – there are at least 4 more brides that will be participating in this yard sale with similar goodies up for grabs!