Making the Cut

We’ve been working on our invite list since… oh, ’round about October and I do believe that it is in its final form now. That was TOUGH. Do we invite all the great co-workers? Do we invite the college friend that was a really good friend but we haven’t talked to in years? Do we invite the sorority/fraternity members? Do we invite those people who believe that they are “best friends” with us but we consider them acquaintances? So hard.

Modern Manners Guy had a great post about who to invite to your wedding – and who you didn’t have to!

  • You don’t have to invite who your friends or parents want you to invite – it’s YOUR wedding
  • You don’t have to invite all of your co-workers (or any of them!)
  • You don’t have to give everyone the option to bring a date – maybe they’ll meet someone!

I’d like to add to his list that it’s okay to tell people their children aren’t invited. Yes, they are cute, and we like them, but we don’t want children in the mix on the dance floor or screaming during the ceremony. Please leave the munchkins at home.

I have found it incredibly rude that people ASK if they are invited to the wedding. Who does that? I feel like if you have to ask, you probably aren’t invited and if you are invited, you wouldn’t feel the need to ask. If I haven’t seen you in 7 years and have only talked to you via Facebook every 10-12 months since then, yeah…. about that.

Our plan was to have 125 people at our wedding for a quaint, outdoors affair. After a first try, our list was at 168. We tried to modify, but for everyone we removed, we added someone else. And what about the great grad school friends we’ve made? So many tough decisions with this wedding stuff (eloping is NOT off the table! Just kidding, Mom). After my biggest decision, some people helped remove themselves from my list (15 to be exact).

So as of last night, we were at 153, including our pastor and photographer. Obviously, we know not all of those will show… it will be vacation time or a baby will arrive, and we’re okay with that. But our list finally reflects the people that we want to share our big day with and we’re so excited to finally get our save-the-dates out in the mail!

We’re still in the running for winning a Sandals Honeymoon package! You can vote for us once a day here – all votes are VERY MUCH APPRECIATED!

A Party for the Engaged!

This weekend, my sweet brother and his wife threw us an engagement party at their home in Charlotte. We were both completely overwhelmed with how many people showed up to celebrate with us and the amount of love surrounding us that night. We feel very fortunate and blessed to have these people in our lives. And we are so grateful to Brent & Kerah for opening their home to our family and friends for such an exciting evening!

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Kerah, Brent, Groom + Bride

My MOH was there to celebrate with us (and did a wonderful job with her MOH duties!)… and got us the most ADORABLE monogrammed gift! Also, our parents finally got to meet! We somehow had managed to not have that happen over the past 3.5+ years, but Saturday evening they got to chat and catch up on the past few years! Here I am with my mom and the groom’s mother and then with my MOH.
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Kerah’s sister and my Maw Maw made delicious desserts for everyone to enjoy and spirits flowed. I am smitten with the idea of “mini-desserts” and hope to include those at our wedding. I’m so glad they did this for us – it lets everyone try a bit of everything without being grossly full afterwards. The weather was perfect so we sat out by the firepit in JANUARY! Everything looked so adorable – it’s exactly what I would have planned if I had been involved. The most perfect engagement party ever!
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We loved spending time and celebrating with everyone. It’s so nice to feel so loved at this very exciting time in our lives. We are even more excited for our wedding to hurry up and get here now – it’s going to be THE.BEST.DAY.EVER!
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Southern Weddings

What better way to get ideas for my own southern wedding than to attend a Southern Weddings party? As a lover of love + weddings, I have been reading the blog for sometime and pinning away ideas.

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I jumped on the opportunity to attend their launch party with my best gals thinking it would be fun to mix & mingle with amazing local vendors!
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My girls and I road-tripped it to Chapel Hill and stayed at the Carolina Inn on Thursday night. Everyone wore their Sunday best to the party – although somehow Liz & I missed the “wear-all-black” memo. We were enchanted by the sweet potato bar, mini desserts and of course, the tower of Cheerwine!
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It was such a fun evening! And we got to meet one of the folks of Blueberry Fusion who had their photos featured in Southern Weddings. Hoping my soon to be sister-in-law will use their services when she and her beau get hitched! It was a fun little soiree to attend before a night of fun in downtown Chapel Hill with my very best friends (minus Amy, who I wish could have been there!). And on Friday we went bridesmaid dress and wedding gown shopping… because not only am I engaged but Mandy is too!
I think we found some real winners for the bridesmaid dresses but I’m still undecided on my gown. Although Mecklenburg Bridal just called to say they’re having a black Friday sale and it’s 15% off. I’m such a sucker for a sale!

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On this Thanksgiving week, I’d just like to say how thankful I am for such amazing and supportive friends and family. Feeling very lucky!

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P.S.  I promise not to watch any war movies in the week before the wedding!

Maids of Dishonor

It’s been a long running joke with my friends to call each other our “Maids of Dishonor” but now that we’re actually getting married (still feels crazy to say!) we have to change that term to “Bridesmaids.”

It’s probably not hard to figure out who my bridesmaids are going to be. I’ve had the same “best friends” for most of my life. They are literally the best friends a girl could ask for and as cliche as it sounds… I can not talk to them for a month and pick up the phone and our conversation starts right where we left off before. It’s hard now that we’re all graduated and working and can’t spend half of our summers lounging on beaches together but it works and I have no doubt in my mind that we’ll always be best friends!

I put together fun little boxes for each of them, as a special way of asking them to be a part of my big day. I’m so excited to see the looks on their faces when they open them! And even more excited to have them by my side as I say “I do!” One has already received hers… so I know the answer there. Just 4 more to go!

Happy Monday!