A Party for the Engaged!

This weekend, my sweet brother and his wife threw us an engagement party at their home in Charlotte. We were both completely overwhelmed with how many people showed up to celebrate with us and the amount of love surrounding us that night. We feel very fortunate and blessed to have these people in our lives. And we are so grateful to Brent & Kerah for opening their home to our family and friends for such an exciting evening!

Kerah, Brent, Groom + Bride
Kerah, Brent, Groom + Bride

My MOH was there to celebrate with us (and did a wonderful job with her MOH duties!)… and got us the most ADORABLE monogrammed gift! Also, our parents finally got to meet! We somehow had managed to not have that happen over the past 3.5+ years, but Saturday evening they got to chat and catch up on the past few years! Here I am with my mom and the groom’s mother and then with my MOH.
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Kerah’s sister and my Maw Maw made delicious desserts for everyone to enjoy and spirits flowed. I am smitten with the idea of “mini-desserts” and hope to include those at our wedding. I’m so glad they did this for us – it lets everyone try a bit of everything without being grossly full afterwards. The weather was perfect so we sat out by the firepit in JANUARY! Everything looked so adorable – it’s exactly what I would have planned if I had been involved. The most perfect engagement party ever!
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We loved spending time and celebrating with everyone. It’s so nice to feel so loved at this very exciting time in our lives. We are even more excited for our wedding to hurry up and get here now – it’s going to be THE.BEST.DAY.EVER!
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Meet the Fockers

I spent this weekend with my soon-to-be in-laws. My fiance’s sweet parents and his brilliant sister who graduated from UNC-W this weekend with her Masters! Every time we are with them it is just delightful. Whether we are playing Apples-to-Apples, watching Bad Santa, hanging out with Will Ferrell or picking up sand dollars on the beach, it is always a wonderfully enjoyable time. (Not to mention his parents love food in the same way I do… so we eat, a lot!).

546787_10100298185530913_673317564_nI’ve heard so many horror stories about in-laws and especially the mother-in-law not getting along with the girl who is spending forever with her son, but that is in no way the case! I love, love, LOVE my soon-to-be mother-in-law. She is a wonderful woman, very admirable and sweet and perfectly Southern! I honestly could not have hand-picked a better woman to be my mother-in-law. Landon’s dad is also amazing, he’s incredibly smart, can always make me laugh and always makes a point to ask about my family, which makes me smile inside. Quite possibly the best part of this is that I also get a new sister (I already have one sister-in-law  in my brother’s wife).

Today, my newest soon-to-be sister-in-law and I had a private warm vinyasa yoga class in Wilmington. Seriously, we get along great. I can’t imagine him having a sister that was any more perfect! We love the same things, can share clothes, ran our first half marathon together and somehow always kick-ass when we’re on the same game team. I love her and I feel very lucky to be joining her family.

I love my family. I’m very passionate and protective of them (even though more than 48 hours with them usually results some sort of “I’m adopted” rant). I can’t wait to see them in just 9 days and hug my little cousins, spend yet another Christmas with the sweetest and best grandfather anyone could ever have and spend our first Christmas with my adorable nephew. I love that even after all these years, and after we’ve all grown up, we all still make our way back to our small town and have a huge Christmas breakfast together with 30+ people. I’m also very happy that just a few days after that, we’ll be spending Christmas in Fearrington with my fiance’s family for our very first engaged Christmas. yay!

Kids, or no kids?

Calm down, we’re not debating on whether or not we will have children, just whether or not we will allow kids at our wedding. Family kids alone is adding about 15 people to the guest list (which is already over the amount of people we wanted to invite…. and without several people that we had hoped to be able to invite on that list)… tough decision. Let me show you why…

My sweet, sweet, adorable little cousins. Maddi & Addi are almost the same age and I literally adore those little girls. Addi is my mini-me and Maddi is… well… she realllly loves that Landon is going to be a part of the family. I love them to pieces and can’t imagine celebrating such a big day in my life without two people who have been such a big part of my life. Drew too… he’s Addi’s little brother and a very special little boy in my life. Then there’s this guy….
My nephew who is just too stinkin’ cute to leave out. I mean seriously… look at those eyes! I initially didn’t want babies there (because of crying during the ceremony) but again, I can’t imagine not having pictures of me holding this little man on the happiest day of my life.

I’ve seen weddings every which way… no kids, everyone’s kids, only family kids, only kids that were in the wedding, only allowed until a certain time…. it’s just such a hard decision. Who to cut out, who is a must-have… but it comes down to a number limit and budget, I think.

I should also point out that my fiance has quite a few kids on his side of the family (adorable kids) and I think he would regret it afterwards if they weren’t there… so even if we don’t have kids in the wedding (I’m thinking no flower girl or ring bearer – that’s why we have dogs!) … I do think I at least want family kids there.

What do y’all think? What’s the best way to approach this?