OH EM GEEEE!

I discovered that Anthropologie now has a wedding line – BHLDN – and not just for brides, but bridesmaids, gifts, mother of the bride, lingerie, and decor! I was totally entranced upon making this amazing discovery and spent hours flipping through internet pages of awesomesauce. Seriously, if my wedding wasn’t 17 days away, I’d be searching here for the perfect pieces!

One of my FAVORITE dresses is the Luella, but I also love the Swan (which happens to be on major sale)! That bow! I die! Check out all the dresses for the bride from BHLDN.

Luella
Luella
Swan (back)
Swan (back)
Swan (front)
Swan (front)

They also have insanely cute bridesmaid dresses starting at just $200! Think: WEAR AGAIN.

I spent the majority of my time on the gifts page, digging through gorgeousness and swooning over all the options. I am in love with this vintage monogram kerchief! What a great gift for mom(s), grandmothers, or even your bridesmaids!
kerchiefI couldn’t decide what I loved most on the decor page, so I’m including a sample of some of the items. Everything is adorable and fairly reasonably priced. Anthropologie always has the neatest stuff, so I was pleased to see that BHLDN carried that over into their wedding line.
cakeaccSo, set aside an hour or two and go dig around on this completely adorable website. If you’re planning a wedding in the near future and don’t want to be super traditional, this is a great place to find your goods.

Happy Wednesday! Oh, and did I mention, only 17 itsy, bitsy days until THE BIG ONE? eeeep!

 

Practice makes perfect!

Last week we received a darling invite to our rehearsal dinner, hosted by my wonderful, soon-to-be in-laws. At the same time, I got a flood of emails from our coordinator, photographer and DJ asking for schedules, addresses, updated info, etc. Oh, did I mention I’m in the middle of starting a new job? (insert “ain’t nobody got time for that” comment here).

So, I’ve been digging through them, every chance I get and updating as I go (in between writing checks in amounts that hurt my heart). Somewhere in the midst of this, I realized that we hadn’t even given our wedding party a run-down of the details they needed to know about the rehearsal or day of the wedding. Lucky for my fiance, I am a pro at writing emails, so I quickly drafted a template that we could send to our respective sides.

Being the perfectionist that I am, or as particular as I am, or controlling as some may call it, it was hard for me not to type a big ol’ “DON’T YOU DARE BE LATE OR YOU WILL FOREVER GET THE STINK EYE FROM ME.” But I’m trusting that my guests got that from, “it is imperative that everyone be on time as we are only allotted ONE hour to rehearse at the venue.”

Ideally, I would like to run through things 2-3 times while we are there (I’m sure my coordinator has this all planned out). This will be the first time our entire wedding party will be together, and will be interesting to see how everything flows. It will certainly ease my mind if we can make things as darn near perfect as possible in that hour. Luckily, the rehearsal dinner is afterwards and I can have a glass of wine to ease my mind the rest of the way.

The wedding invite list was stressful, deciding where to budget money was stressful, but for me, counting on a dozen other people to handle the biggest day of my life is by far the most stressful. I want to have my hand in everything and preview and review everything to make sure it’s JUST RIGHT before any guests see it. This will likely not be possible on the day of and I’ll have to relinquish some of my “controlling” nature and let everyone do their thing. So here’s to putting my big day in the hands of friends, family and paid wedding-industry-members alike. Deep breaths!

répondez s’il vous plaît

If I know anything from my 7+ years of French, it’s what “répondez s’il vous plaît” means. And if I know anything from being a bride, it’s how important it is that people RSVP in a timely manner.
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We are now less than 4 weeks out from our wedding (3 weeks & 6 days to be exact), and our guests have until this coming Friday to RSVP to our big party. Thus far, we have 71 confirmed guests, which is great, but still only about half of the guests that we invited. While I enjoy the fact that they are trickling in and I’m not having to spend hours at a time adding names to our spreadsheet, I’m getting slightly anxious about those that have not responded.

We made it pretty easy on our guests by using postcards that were pre-stamped. Only a simple check to confirm they are attending, filling in of the name and number of guests required. And did I mention that we used adorable stamps?
rsvp_id rsvp_tgI am particularly fond of the wedding-spirit stamps that we used and ordered from Zazzle. They were also the exact postage for postcards, unlike the flower stamps which are Forever stamps and actually more postage than needed for our postcards. (Add that to the list of things you never thought of before you planned a wedding!). However, we did get complimented on our use of the flower stamps, and my fleur and garden loving husband-to-be was a big fan of them.

So here we are finalizing schedules, picking up last minute items, paying vendors and patiently waiting for guests to RSVP. I keep saying I’m not going to chase people down for RSVPs (see photo below), so, my hope is that when I return from my work trip this week (eeek! New job!), we’ll have a bundle of RSVPs to be added to our list and I can relax a little.
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Forever films

We have vacillated for most of our wedding planning experience on whether or not we would hire a videographer. The cheapest quote I was given was $1700 – but most were closer to the $2500 range for a base package. I get it, they put a lot of time into following you around on the big day, and also into editing and making sure everything is perfect before giving you those final discs. But once you’ve paid for venues, catering, flowers, coordinators, photography, and all the million other things weddings require… that extra money seems scary to spend. I talked about this a few weeks ago in this post for Carolina Bride.

My groom does not feel passionate about having a videographer or not having one. I am not sure I feel passionate about it, but I think I might regret it if I don’t. It’s not something we can go back and do, after the fact. I was discussing with one of my bridesmaids yesterday and we talked about how frequently it would be watched… probably only on anniversaries and maybe if our (one day) kids wanted to see it. She made a good point though that it’s “live” and you might not always have the opportunity to interact with folks that are at your wedding, and of course, it’s something you can keep forever.

Family members have also offered opinions, similar to my bridesmaid’s opinion yesterday. Again, I’ve also had people say that they don’t regret it. I’ve had people say that the ceremony was a disaster because the priest kept calling them by the wrong name. I’ve had people say that they love their video and it’s so special. And like Michelle said yesterday, heaven forbid something happen to one of us, but we could play the video to each other like Channing Tatum did in The Vow. (Or we could just watch Channing Tatum in The Vow).

So, I spent Monday negotiating with a videographer for the parts that we really care about being caught on camera and was able to get to a price point that I was happy with and my groom, knowing that I want it, said, “do it.” Love him.

1 month to go – and we are EXCITED!
1 month
Do you have an opinion on hiring a videographer? Please leave a comment & share!

Honeymoonin’

I am getting so EXCITED to hop on a plane with my HUSBAND and head to Aruba! I’ve already started planning outfits (and eyeing some others that I’d like to see in my suitcase). I went on a pinning spree last night and added a whole new board for Honeymoon Style. Hopefully this will help me when it comes time to actually pack!

First of all, I’m taking my “How does she do it” bag from Stella & Dot. I have loved this bag from the minute it was released and finally snagged my own. bagOver-packing is a bad habit of mine, but I’m a girl who loves to have options. However, since we’re going for 11 days and I am not interested in carrying multiple suitcases, we’re going to have a serious effort to cut down on what I take. Necessities include: sundresses, shorts, tanks, lots of bathing suits, shoes for our nice dinners and comfy shoes for excursions and sightseeing. So here are some of the styles I am LOVING:

1. My new RayBan Wayfarers

Rayban2. Maxi Dresses … even better if they are Lilly Pulitzer!Lilly3. White Bikinis!
bikini
4. A bundle of J Crew shorts and several pair of Jack Rogers will be accompanying me on this trip!

shorts5. A monogrammed beach hat with my NEW initials (I have one with my OLD initials from Marley Lilly) hat6. A cute beach cover up (also J Crew)tunic 7. Cute dresses for going out to dinner like this eyelet Lilly Pulitzer dress

Wilma
I’m also currently loving stripes and my chambray shirts. Not sure how the long-sleeve clothing will do in Aruba but I can guarantee I’ll take one just in case I get the opportunity to wear it.

And it goes without saying that we’re taking lots of sunscreen! We’re prepared to use SPF 70 when we get there, these honeymooners aren’t taking any chances on ruining our 11 days in paradise!

Groom’s Gift

We are now less than 40 days out from our wedding and all of the little details are adding up. I have so many things left to do (and more that come up every day!). Picking songs, finalizing our vows (and writing my part!), ordering the programs, and still, all of those wonderful DIY craft projects that I have yet to start. One of my biggest “to-do’s” right now is finding a gift for my groom – or at the very least, coming up with the idea for what to buy!

I was pretty set on getting a watch for him with something sweet engraved on the back, and I think that’s a pretty traditional gift for grooms. I know of at least three brides that have given watches to their new husband on the day of the wedding. Searching for this on the internet didn’t really provide any additional insight.
watch

A friend told me she got her husband-to-be an iPad, but my Apple-loving groom already has one. Another idea was luggage for all of the traveling that we will do. Of course, I envision a great big monogram or possibly his name embroidered on a duffle bag, but I fear he might roll his eyes on that one.

So, alas, I am clueless. I have no more ideas on what to possibly buy him that will have meaning and also be of use to him. I know this is a gift that should have more meaning behind it than necessarily the value or practical use of it, but I do love giving practical gifts. Now, I need all the former brides out there to rally and tell me your best ideas for a gift for my darling groom. Ready, set, go!
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Happy, happy, happy!

We had a splendid 4th of July yesterday – despite the rain (and by rain, I mean torrential downpours, thunderstorms and clouds all day). We celebrated my cousin’s 10th birthday – and America’s at the same time! We have been doing a lot of celebrating lately – and I apologize that this isn’t really a “wedding post” but I had to share. My ever-so-studious fiance just finished 2 more classes through Northeastern University for his Master’s and earned A’s in both (brag!). And last week, I was offered a BIG promotion with my company, while staying in the Communications arena.

I had to wait to make the announcement – which was tough – especially since I wanted to shout it from the rooftop! I applied for the job on a whim, thinking I really had no shot, it was grades above where I was, I had just earned my Master’s which they wanted but I didn’t have a lot of post-Master’s experience to apply, and I had just been promoted back in December so another jump so soon was not realistic. But alas, I had all of the qualifications and apparently didn’t sound too much like Miss South Carolina in my interviews.

I am so excited for this opportunity and all of the doors that it opens for me, and for my future family. Overwhelmingly, people have been happy for me (lots of screaming, jumping hugs in the elevators at work and tons of text messages), but I did have one person tell me “Don’t expect to be Top 10 again.” We are fortunate at my company to still get bonuses and those are based on your rating for the year. Last year, I was a Top 10 performer for the company and man, it felt good. Disappointing to be told that when I just got a “dream job” and am over-the-moon happy. However, since I’ve been reading Lean In by Sheryl Sandburg, I feel empowered. I feel excited. I feel like I can do anything.

First and foremost, I am going to marry the love of my life and spend 11 spectacular days in Aruba with him. But then, we can focus on our careers and figure out where we want to be before we start a family. I’m not the girl who wants to be a stay-at-home mom (nothing wrong with it!). I enjoy working, and I especially enjoy new challenges and opportunities. My fiance is the same way and while he is knee-deep in his Master’s studies right now, he is well on his way to his next opportunity. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for us.

The next 43 days hold lots of last minute details, DIY crafts and collecting of RSVPs. Counting down!

Happy weekend!